It's that time of year. Everyone, and their dog, has made a New Year's resolution. But, they all suck! Yes, even yours! Why so negative? According to an article by Business Insider 80% of New Year's resolutions fail by February. Well that just... sucks.
All that negativity aside, I really do love this time of year. It's like having a clean slate, a fresh start, and all of those cliches. It's a time of year when people dare to dream big. There is hope for the future. And that does NOT suck!
What does suck is that people lose sight of their resolutions so quickly. Make this the year that you actually accomplish something. Life is too short to always fall short of your goals. Make something of yourself! Be proud to accomplish something great.
Here are five reasons why your resolution sucks and how to fix it!
1. Your “Why” Isn’t Big Enough
I'm not saying your resolution or goal isn't big enough. It may actually be too big, but we'll talk about that later. What I'm saying is that the reason BEHIND your resolution isn't big enough.
What do I mean? Well, we all want to be skinny or fit right? Of course we do. Then why can't we put down that slice of pizza or bowl (pint) of ice cream? Because our desire to be fit doesn't outweigh that immediate desire or craving. This applies to all of our goals as well.
So how do we make our "why" big enough? Well, I have a personal example. My brother had a major heart attack in his mid-thirties! Super young right? My grandmother also had a heart attack quite young. Family makes a great reason to stick with our goals, whether it is to avoid a family predisposition, have the energy to play with our grandchildren, or simply live long enough to raise and see our children grow.
Bucket list items are another great reason to stick with our goals. Perhaps you've always wanted to run a 5k, 10k, or even a marathon. Maybe you've wanted to climb to the top of Machu Picchu. Maybe your going on your dream vacation and want that sexy body to look good in a all the photos.
Those with the greater "why" are more likely to succeed.
People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals – that is, goals that do not inspire them.Tony Robbins
2. It Isn’t Written Down
This may seem simple, but there is true power when you write your resolution down. Once written down it changes from a dream or a wish to a goal!
Write it down. Better yet, put it somewhere you'll see it everyday. This can be on your refrigerator, on your work desk, or even in your shower! My husband and I update our dream board every year. It sits above our dresser and we see it every morning as we are getting our underwear out. It is a quick reminder of how we're doing at accomplishing our goals.
Our Last Year’s Dream Board
3. It Isn’t Measurable
A goal properly set is halfway reached.Zig Ziglar
It is well known that to be most effective any goal needs to be specific and measurable. First, this helps us to be more realistic with our goals. Also, instead of being some vague wish it becomes more tangible.
Break your goal up into specific bite-sized chunks. This will give you a sense of accomplishment as you make progress. This sense of accomplishment will motivate you to continue towards your goal.
If your resolution is to do better with your finances then get specific and set a dollar amount that you are going to save, or a dollar amount of debt you are going to pay off. Then break that down monthly, quarterly, or however best makes sense for the goal. This is the same with losing weight or getting in shape. For those that don't like scales, keep progress photos or body measurements.
4. There Is No Firm Due Date
We're talking about New Year's resolutions right? Then wouldn't the due date be this year? Well... maybe. For most goals that is just too vague. For many goals that is way too long of a time period.
This ties back into your resolution being measurable and broken up. Maybe you can accomplish your resolution by summer. Perhaps it only requires a couple months. Or maybe it is something that will take a couple years. No matter what, set a firm due date that is challenging, but realistic.
Due dates ensure that we actually get something done. Can you imagine getting a school assignment with no due date? Would you ever get it done? Ever notice that teachers often break large projects up? A rough draft is due before the final essay or a topic is required to be selected weeks before the final paper. They know the key to accomplishing tasks, break them up into measurable chunks that have firm due dates.
5. You Aren’t Accountable to Anyone
Goals just work better if we are accountable to someone other than ourselves. Sure, we can be our own cheerleader, but more ofter we are our own worst enemy. Self-doubt and self-criticism can squash any hope. Having someone supporting us is always helpful.
Share your goal with your spouse, a friend, a family member, someone, anyone! Okay, not anyone.
Make sure you pick an accountability partner that is appropriate for this particular goal. Don't share your goal to save money with your favorite shopping buddy and expect them to help. That is like making your drinking buddy your sponsor for Alcoholics Anonymous. Can you say stupid?
Share your goal with the person you select AND tell them the due date. Discuss how they can follow up best and ask them to do so. This works even better if they have the same, or a similar, resolution.
Now you know why your resolution sucks! You also know how to fix it. Again, life it too short not to make something of yourself. Make this the year that you actually accomplish something to be proud of.
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Feel free to comment with your own resolution. Just make sure it doesn't suck!
By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands – your own.Mark Victor Hansen